Sleep Drama with my wife...please help with suggestions?

Here are the basics, I get up to get my kids on bus 6:46am wife is still sleeping. After that because I don't work right now, I wash the dishes, then load the dishwasher, scrub the stove from last nights dinner, wipe off the kitchen table %26amp; counter. By then it's about 9:30am. I pace the floor, thinking why the hell am I doing all this myself, I must be crazy, no other guy would do the house wives work for her. I have depression, and add/adhd. I have hard times dealing with my emotions, and logical thinking and feeling. Anyways, she's still sleeping by 10am. I try to wake her, and she just rolls to one side and moans. I've been married for 10 years now, to this highschool sweetheart, everybody else made fun of, picked on, and called names from sesame street cartoon, because she has buck teeth, red snarly hair, 6'2" tall, and has freckles. So everyone in school disliked her, as me everyone hated me, I had the problem of letting everybody walk all over me, I was terrified with fright?

Sleep Drama with my wife...please help with suggestions?
Each of you have a responsibility to keep your family going. So, what is she doing? Why is housekeeping only a woman's job? I see two issues here.
Reply:what a lazy bum wife! she's lucky to have you! take a break. go on a vacation and let ur wife do the chores for a while!
Reply:Wow. You need to grow up a little bit.





I'll bet that your wife does way more than her share when she's awake. If your attitude is what she has to put up with, I'm not surprised that she wants to stay in bed!





Not everyone has the same sleep patterns. She could be a "night owl" like me.





I've been happily married to a Morning Lark for over 30 years. I'm a night owl. With a loving, respectful relationship, there is no problem.
Reply:Woe is you my friend. Woe is YOU
Reply:well i think that it is nice that a man can do house work and help out , how ever if this is an ongoing thing maybe you should try to get her to a dr she may be depressed as weel as you. good luck
Reply:did she make those children all by herself ? I think not. They are your responsibility too. If you don't work right now what's the big deal. And since when is it "housewives work", it is just chores that need to be done with no specific sex attached to them. Do you want a clean house for your kids and yourself to live in or do you want to live in a pigsty?? have you ever considered that your wife sleeps a lot because she may be depressed - due to the fact that you aren't working, she's got kids to take care of, and oh yeah you didn't mention her job or jobs..... my guess is that she works rings around you. take your meds if you have them and grow up. that is the mother of your children you are dissing on here, you should be ashamed. do something nice for both of you, get a babysitter, and go out on a date once a week. you might find out how much she means to you and you can talk about being partners in this life instead of whatever it is you think you have now.
Reply:I think you are both being a little selfish. First of all if she is not working she should be sharing the household chores with you. I don't think either one of you is more at fault than the other. When you were working did she get up and get the kids ready and do all the housework? Maybe she feels she deserves a break too. The way you describe her sounds terrible though, what does the way she look have to do with the story. It doesn't sound like you actually like her very much
Reply:It's time you both have a talk and put your cards on the table and try to work this problem out because things are'nt going to get better by theirselfs!
Reply:No offense but if you truly love her, you would not have just made your marriage sound like a mercy committment. You don't marry someone b/c you feel sorry for them. You need to grow up in that area. Secondly, my husband is a morning person %26amp; I am an evening person. I sleep late (although we only have a 2 y/o who sleeps in with me) but I pull my weight as far as house work %26amp; I even work part-time as well as handling any errnads etc. You need to speak to her about this %26amp; if she can do her part %26amp; still sleep late then maybe you guys can make it work. Otherwise you'll have to make a decision.


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Reply:u need 2 sit down n communicate n tell her how u feel...does she work or look afta the kids???
Reply:I hope it all works out. Talk to her well everyone might have disliked you in school but I think you sound like a fantastic father and husband.
Reply:If your wife has been sleeping this long for over 2 weeks, she might have acute depression. Don't give up on her. Maybe she needs to go to a medical doctor and have some blood drawn to see if it's hormonal, etc...Than maybe you should see if your physician can give you a referral for a good clinical psychologist to give he an assessment for depression. This is not normal. You don't have to be a beauty queen to be a happy person.



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